Core Questions (Part 2)

Susan Deitz
Wed, 19 Nov 2025 21:00:00 -0800
Lifestyle

All right, moving right along to continue the findings of that exploratory survey you began last time here in "Single File":

—Do you expect to have sex on the first date? (About 76 percent of women said no; 6.7 percent said yes; 13.8 percent said sometimes. As for men, 15.1 percent said yes; 75.6 percent said no; 9.3 percent said sometimes.)

—Do you think people of the other sex expect you to want to have sex on the first date? (Aside: There's so much misunderstanding circulating in the single world, and this query exemplifies it so well.) Results: Among women, 25.2 percent said yes; 27.7 percent said sometimes; 20.8 percent said no. Among men, 10.5 percent said yes; 33.7 percent said no; 25.7 percent said sometimes.
Updated: Wed Nov 26, 2025

All right, moving right along to continue the findings of that exploratory survey you began last time here in "Single File":

—Do you expect to have sex on the first date? (About 76 percent of women said no; 6.7 percent said yes; 13.8 percent said sometimes. As for men, 15.1 percent said yes; 75.6 percent said no; 9.3 percent said sometimes.)

—Do you think people of the other sex expect you to want to have sex on the first date? (Aside: There's so much misunderstanding circulating in the single world, and this query exemplifies it so well.) Results: Among women, 25.2 percent said yes; 27.7 percent said sometimes; 20.8 percent said no. Among men, 10.5 percent said yes; 33.7 percent said no; 25.7 percent said sometimes.

—How often have you picked up someone for the express purpose of one-night sex? (About 62 percent of women and 36 percent of men said never; 24.3 percent of women and 33.7 percent of men said once or twice. Clearly not a popular sport.)

—Do you feel more or less lonely after casual sex? (Forty-two percent said more lonely.)

—Would you rather do without sexual activity — except perhaps masturbation, if it's OK with you — than take part in casual or non-caring sex? (About 83 percent preferred going without sexual activity.)

—Do you need more than one sex partner to fill all your sexual needs? (About 62 percent said no.)

—Do you think you could meet someone who could fill all your sexual needs? (About 60 percent of women and 77.9 percent of men said yes.)

—Do you have other outlets (besides sexual ones) through which you express your need to love and be loved? (About 15 percent said friends or co-workers; 7.9 percent said children; 6.6 percent said work; 5.8 percent said family; 8 percent said dreams; 2.3 percent said church; 4.5 percent said physical contact; 6.8 percent said helping others; 7.4 percent said kindness and compassion; 3.9 percent said animals; 2.8 percent said creativity; 5 percent said music; 5 percent said talking; 5 percent said activity; 6.5 percent said other; 10 percent said none.

—Ideally, which would you prefer, one love for a lifetime or one at each stage of your emotional development? (About 74 percent of women and 69.8 percent of men preferred one love for a lifetime.)

—How prepared were you to handle your sex life as a single person? (About 35 percent said fairly well; 30.1 percent said poorly.)

To be continued next week. Promise.