Senior Valentines

Doug Mayberry
Sun, 09 Feb 2020 21:00:00 -0800
Lifestyle

Q: My wife and I celebrated our 53rd wedding anniversary last year. None of our friends have reached that milestone, and I feel very blessed. But there are some things that get harder with time.

Due to our age, neither of us is as mobile as we once were. We both used to enjoy going out for a big date, but we haven't felt up for it the last few years. Dealing with traffic, busy restaurants and other inconveniences is just too exhausting.
Updated: Mon Feb 10, 2020

Q: My wife and I celebrated our 53rd wedding anniversary last year. None of our friends have reached that milestone, and I feel very blessed. But there are some things that get harder with time.

Due to our age, neither of us is as mobile as we once were. We both used to enjoy going out for a big date, but we haven't felt up for it the last few years. Dealing with traffic, busy restaurants and other inconveniences is just too exhausting.

It just seems harder to really celebrate. We have more limitations and have pretty much done it all, so it's hard to find anything new or different.

How can I make this Valentine's Day special?

A: No matter how long you've been married, relationship maintenance is key. When you love each other, your effort is more important than any other trappings.

The most important thing is to set aside time to enjoy being together.

If you don't feel up to going out, have a special meal at home. Cook, or order in some of her favorite foods to show her you're thinking about her.

Flowers are another great way to recognize the occasion.

When celebrating, presentation makes all the difference. Decorating your table or room with flowers, candles, nice dishware and linens shows your commitment to making this day out of the ordinary.

If you're thinking of doing something different, find an activity you can do together. Volunteering, crafting or spending time with family are all good ideas.

A thoughtful card is another way to show your love and appreciation. Instead of getting a store-bought card and signing it, write down your feelings, and tell her why she's important to you.

Celebrations are especially important for seniors, as you never know what the future will bring. Appreciating moments both big and small helps you get through everything else.

Valentine's Day is an opportunity to reflect on our loved ones and show them that they matter. As long as you try, it's hard to go wrong. — Emma, Doug's granddaughter

DOG BREEDS

Q: I'm all alone in my house, and my family has finally sold me on the idea of getting a dog. They're great company, and I've always liked pets.

On the other hand, I've never had a dog of my own. I've watched over neighbors' dogs, but I don't know how to choose one for myself.

What are some of the best dog breeds for seniors?

A: There are many fantastic breeds, but you need to find the best one for you.

Parameters to keep in mind are age, energy level, size, temperament and grooming requirements.

You're likely to be happier with a smaller, less energetic, easily trained dog. These dogs are ideal for people who have less energy to try to manage a chaotic element. It's amazing how much trouble some dogs get into!

Although many people looking for dogs choose puppies, senior dogs are a great match for senior citizens. They are often well-socialized, calmer and house-trained. Another factor to consider is life expectancy. Dogs are considered seniors after about age 7.

Every dog breed is slightly different and is well-suited to certain lifestyles. Some great breeds to research are beagles, poodles, Pomeranians, corgis, spaniels and terriers.

There's no one right answer. Just remember that "In taste, there can be no dispute!" — Doug